Recognizing Red Flags

RECOGNIZING RED FLAGS is the 2nd episode in our podcast series about GBV that aims to chronicle the events that precede actual assault or abuse.

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We often ask ourselves: “How did I get here?” or “How did she end up in that situation or relationship?” We wonder: “Didn’t she see this coming?” or “Did she ignore the signs?” In order to bring understanding to those who pose these questions, we assess the techniques and dynamics that often distract from recognizing red flags in the early stages of a situation or relationship. Abusers, for the most part, aren’t novices when it comes to abuse and apply techniques that have worked for them in the past. Hence when trying to understand a situation in which abuse occurred, or when going as far as judging survivors of abuse, the advantage of someone who enters an interaction or relationship with the agenda of abuse must be factored in.

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The road to abuse is paved with many facets. It is often a short path that is crossed too fast to even allow enough time to understand it. At times, it is so long and slow that one forgets where it began and where it was supposed to lead.

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Understanding is an integral component in the process of healing. By dissecting each part of the process that leads to abuse, we aim to shine a light onto a subject that is often blurry and shrouded with shame.

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*Trigger Warning

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